I am just going to be honest and say that confidence is something that I have had all of my life but defining confidence in yourself can be complicated and can sometimes make your life goals really hard to meet. For years, I was confident in my athleticism but that same confidence actually made it harder for me socially in school, at work and in my friendships.
My parents were very strict which made it harder for me to blend in with the kids who were allowed to stay out and attend the many parties. My skills on the track gave me the confidence to be a great athlete but I had no idea how to parlay that same confidence into the rest of my life. I remembered thinking "why can't I be both?" "Why can't I feel confident enough to show my true personality all of the time?" It wasn't until my freshman year of college when I learned that my confidence in myself was 100% dependent upon me first meeting my own expectations. So I decided to set goals for myself. These goals were not your basic goals like graduating college or losing 10 lbs. They were more defined and obtainable. They were goals that meant more to me than just being married with children by 30 or driving the nicest car.
My first goal was to break away from all negativity I willing allowed into my life. This included blocking people out who I really loved but who never made me feel better as a person. My second was finally allowing myself to be myself. This goal was the most important because I come from a family full of outspoken women who were all just alike. I wanted to different and not feel terrible about it.
My reason for writing about this topic is because I have noticed a lot of women holding themselves back from advancement, or even change, for the better because they are too worried about what someone else thinks of them. They are concerned about so many things that are not allowing them to continuously move forward. If you have been following me for a while then have seen me use the hash tag #movingforward.
So, let's take a stand as strong women who are not only the best dressed but are the best at what we do and let's continue to move forward with confidence in ourselves.
Sincerely,
krl
www.saconfidentialbykrl.com
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